I just checked out this new Summer activity on a post from Krazee 4 Kindergarten! It's amazing (and so is the blog if you are a mother or a teacher) and I cannot wait to get those cards in the mail! POW!
Her Teacher's notebook store has stuff that you might love as well as these cards I am getting from her!
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Wednesday, June 20, 2012
Trials and Errors
My daughter just stood in my face and said, "Well, you know about displacement."
This whole conversation has been about her behavior over the past 2.5 years. It's been horrible; mood swings, temper tantrums, screaming at her brother, nasty attitude, disrespectful, talking out of the side of her mouth like she wants me to smack her face off.
We've done therapy both secular and Christian and it all boils down to this:
Her father.
She attempted suicide on Father's Day last year, but that was only a part of the rising action it seems because her behavior seems to be the same and the subsequent therapy's effects have not been long lasting.
Well, what about her father you ask?
Just about everything; he's an ex-con who was extremely well off due to his illegal activities, who now works in the food industry making pennies. His self-esteem is in the toilet because his money isn't where it was and he doesn't actually know how to be a father because he never had one. In a nutshell, he's lost and he isn't he best role model for her, which is obvious to her at this juncture.
Wait! What? Why did I, in all of my fabulousness, choose someone like that? Well, I was broken at one time in my life and he was what I thought was a friend; in actuality he wanted me to be a trophy girlfriend and when I began to step out of that role and find my voice, things got real dicey between us. He attempted to kill me and we broke up.
The end....
For us.
But for his daughter who he begged me to have, because believe it or not - I am pro-choice and having her was not my first one, it's just beginning. I think the reality of who he is and what he isn't, has finally came to roost in her mind and it's driving her crazy to have to really think about him as he is and accept him.
Side note: Last night she told me she thought I was Aaliyah and he was Biggie Smalls when she was little...smh (shelteredchildren.com)
Back to the matter at hand: I want her to be able to reconcile their relationship without displacing her anger at him on me and her brother.
Funny thing is, my daughter already knows that's what she's doing hence the statement that started this post.
Now, I just pray that she will be able to not only know it, but control herself enough to stop...
I love my children...
This whole conversation has been about her behavior over the past 2.5 years. It's been horrible; mood swings, temper tantrums, screaming at her brother, nasty attitude, disrespectful, talking out of the side of her mouth like she wants me to smack her face off.
We've done therapy both secular and Christian and it all boils down to this:
Her father.
She attempted suicide on Father's Day last year, but that was only a part of the rising action it seems because her behavior seems to be the same and the subsequent therapy's effects have not been long lasting.
Well, what about her father you ask?
Just about everything; he's an ex-con who was extremely well off due to his illegal activities, who now works in the food industry making pennies. His self-esteem is in the toilet because his money isn't where it was and he doesn't actually know how to be a father because he never had one. In a nutshell, he's lost and he isn't he best role model for her, which is obvious to her at this juncture.
Wait! What? Why did I, in all of my fabulousness, choose someone like that? Well, I was broken at one time in my life and he was what I thought was a friend; in actuality he wanted me to be a trophy girlfriend and when I began to step out of that role and find my voice, things got real dicey between us. He attempted to kill me and we broke up.
The end....
For us.
But for his daughter who he begged me to have, because believe it or not - I am pro-choice and having her was not my first one, it's just beginning. I think the reality of who he is and what he isn't, has finally came to roost in her mind and it's driving her crazy to have to really think about him as he is and accept him.
Side note: Last night she told me she thought I was Aaliyah and he was Biggie Smalls when she was little...smh (shelteredchildren.com)
Back to the matter at hand: I want her to be able to reconcile their relationship without displacing her anger at him on me and her brother.
Funny thing is, my daughter already knows that's what she's doing hence the statement that started this post.
Now, I just pray that she will be able to not only know it, but control herself enough to stop...
Wednesday, May 02, 2012
I love my kids!
They are the best thing I have ever done with my life...
No. I mean really THE BEST THING.
They are the only thing I can say that I have done, aside from being a teacher, (which I actually came to in a similar fashion - haphazardly and BLESSED) that actually challenges me to be a better person daily!
Having my children is something that causes me to actually STOP, THINK and SEE how my actions affect my surroundings, be it positive or negative and I am truly grateful for them choosing to come through me to assist me on my journey.
I just pray that I am offering them a fraction of the enlightenment they are offering me in return...
Side bar-I think that metacognition and existentialism go hand in hand...
They are the best thing I have ever done with my life...
No. I mean really THE BEST THING.
They are the only thing I can say that I have done, aside from being a teacher, (which I actually came to in a similar fashion - haphazardly and BLESSED) that actually challenges me to be a better person daily!
Having my children is something that causes me to actually STOP, THINK and SEE how my actions affect my surroundings, be it positive or negative and I am truly grateful for them choosing to come through me to assist me on my journey.
I just pray that I am offering them a fraction of the enlightenment they are offering me in return...
Side bar-I think that metacognition and existentialism go hand in hand...
Sunday, March 04, 2012
My KIDS
Why do I love them?
Let me count the ways...
Their sense of humor
Their smiles
Their quirkiness
Their intelligence
Their love
Their hugs
Their kisses
Their beautiful faces
THEM!
They are so sweet and wonderful....
Thank God they are mine....
Let me count the ways...
Their sense of humor
Their smiles
Their quirkiness
Their intelligence
Their love
Their hugs
Their kisses
Their beautiful faces
THEM!
They are so sweet and wonderful....
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